from my other blog. (unsolicited advice that i have no business giving.)

"I felt bad because I’m always the one ending it, I cannot be with a person. I don’t know if you’ve ever felt the same."

This seems to be the mistake a lot of people make...they always tend to feel like the "bad guy" in the situation simply because they cannot let a relationship go on until it fizzles out. I don't really know how or when you guys broke up, but I did start noticing that you haven't posted about him in awhile.

I figured you guys broke up, but either way, I just want to tell you this: there's nothing wrong with wanting to focus on yourself. It's your life. You're allowed to be selfish, although I doubt you broke up for selfish reasons. If you feel like you just can't be with anyone then you don't have to force yourself to smile and put up with it, and anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong. I think it's great that you ended it when you did, and it doesn't make you a bad person. I don't know the reasons why you guys broke up but I'm sure it was for the best. You're only evil if you broke up with someone after intentionally leading them on with the intentions of breaking their heart, haha.

But just because you end things with someone who doesn't want to end it with you doesn't make you a bad person. You're doing yourself and this person a favor, by telling them, "hey listen I can't do this anymore, it's not fair to you, and I don't want to be in a lukewarm relationship where I can only give it X amount of effort while you give XX amount of effort." He probably will have a hard time accepting this but that's just the way the cookie crumbles. Not everyone is going to want the same things as you, unfortunately. That's actually what happened with the last person I got involved with at college...we just wanted different things and realized we were on completely different wavelengths even though we thought we worked well together in the beginning. Shit just happens. That's life. You either power through it if you really care to make it work, or it just ends. But that's up to either both people or just one person in the relationship to figure that out.

This is a great time to focus on yourself and assess the YOU inside, without having someone distracting you. I'm proud of you. I wish I could say the same, but I always seem to be the one getting my heart broken, so I'm always on the other side of this equation, haha.