I think the problem with me is that I try to please everyone all the time and never accept apologies then eventually forget to focus on myself because I was too busy making people happy who would probably never reciprocate it.

I don't get it. Where's my happiness? Why do I have to be the one labeled as the person who always has to do something for other people? There's nothing wrong with being a nice person but when people start taking advantage of it, then you have a problem. I'm always the one supporting people but the one person whose support I need refuses to give me any or can't understand. All they can think about was how much I was there for him for every beck and call earlier in our relationship but now that I have goals and my own life to actually focus on, he gets upset and thinks that I'm not putting enough effort in our relationship. He thinks I'm the one responsible for us faltering as the days go by. Why is the blame put wholly on me? It's not that I don't care about him because I care about him so much but when I find myself starting to care about others more than myself, I have to snap out of it and realize that I, too, am allowed to be selfish and focus on my own well being too. I'm not going to waste anymore time trying to make someone understand where I'm coming from any longer. I don't want to lose out on you but at the same time I'm not going to lose out on myself, meaning my future goals/opportunities.

I don't get it. Maybe I was too coddling already from the start and now that I'm starting to let go and putting my own goals first, he's not used to it, and thinks I'm being selfish. And yet, when I try my hardest to make time for him he gets mad and ignores me, giving me the silent treatment. He's not used to having anything put before him in my life.

Well, get used to it. This is MY life and my one shot. I'm allowed to be selfish sometimes. And if that's something you can't handle and you're going to run away from me instead of making it work (i.e., giving each other space/time when needed and NOT getting upset, as well as being supportive/understanding of what I need to get done), then go ahead. I don't think I have enough power and energy invested in me to run after you. And if we want this to work, then you're going to have to understand that everything's a two-way street.

I've already put forth the effort; it's time for you to do the same. And if you can't, I no longer have anything left to say to you. Ultimately, my life is what I'm going to put first before anything else, along with the sacrifices that come with it.